A first break can put a new romance under strain, or worse. To improve the chances of returning with the relationship intact, try following these ground rules
I have lost luggage, I have slept on airport floors and in budget backpacker hostels, I have weathered flight cancellations, food poisoning and days of unbroken rain. Yet my worst-ever holiday, a weekend away with my boyfriend, went entirely to plan.
We had been seeing each other for a few months, and this was our first trip together. But removed from our usual contexts (in bed, or watching TV, or watching TV in bed), we realised too late that we had nothing to say to each other. At one point we parked our rental car and just sat there, passing the time until we could go home and eventually break up.
Anecdotally, this is not uncommon. The first trip away together can be make or break, either by highlighting incompatibilities it was easy to gloss over at home, or by putting your new relationship under such strain it is unable to recover. Asked for advice for surviving couple holidays, more than one person responded: Separate trips.
If you are planning on getting away with your new partner, you could approach it as a useful stress test, an Amazing Race-style challenge by which your future potential as a couple will be measured or you could take these steps to increase your odds of returning in a relationship.
Do your groundwork
A holiday can be a great way to get to know each other. But one persons idea of unwinding might be posting beachside hot dogs or legs? photos while anothers is informed by DangerousRoads.org (the worlds most spectacular roads). So get a sense of how your new partner likes to spend their time off before you commit to doing it with them.