Sexting: do men and women do it differently?

When you think of sexting, you usually think of men sending unsolicited pictures. But what about the relationships that thrive on it – and the women who love it? Madeleine Holden has three simple tips for taking a good dick pic. First, zoom out. Second, clear the background of clutter. Third, experiment with angles. Then, for extra credit, consider tone, narrative, aesthetics and the desires of the recipient. It was always those that elevated a dick pic from to use my scale a C- to an A+. As founder of Critique My Dick Pic, a popular Tumblr blog that ran for five years from 2013, Holden wrote thoughtful reviews of photographs of about 500 strangers genitals, from almost 10,000 submissions. …

Self-partnered: the sudden, surprising rise of the single positivity movement

From Emma Watson to Lizzo the singer who puts the sing in single more and more people are throwing off outdated stigmas and embracing a happy life on their own Once upon a time we were brought up on fairytales. If we were lucky, they said, we would meet a prince or princess and live happily ever after. If not, we would tread a lonely road to the grave, with only cats to comfort us. But an increasing number of single-positive people are rejecting the notion that true love is the only path to happiness. Just this week, the actor Emma Watson told Vogue how a bloody influx of subliminal messaging had left her stressed and anxious because she was …

How we met: He said: We could just get married. I said: Oh yeah, cool.

Carmena Su, 47, and James Wvinner, 64, live in Blenheim, New Zealand, with their seven-year-old daughter. They both work as yoga teachers, and run a film production company The first time Carmena saw James, she knew he was the man she was going to marry. They were at an intensive two-month yoga course in Australia Carmena was 28 and from New Zealand, and James, 45, was from the US and she spotted him on the first day by the door of the yoga studio. He was sitting down, he had this awesome chest, dreadlocks, and I saw immediately he had such a beautiful warmth to his eyes, she says. A psychic had told her that she would meet her husband …

Couples Therapy: why would anyone agree to televise their therapy sessions?

The showrunners behind an honest, if uncomfortable, new series explain how they got four couples to allow cameras in the room with their therapist Before the closed glass door of a therapists office in New York, a series of couples brace themselves for a slog. One man fidgets with a 3D puzzle; a woman, eyes closed, grips the chair arms. In the chairs, facing a Rorschach-esque painting, the couples seem aware of, if not reacting to, a discreetly installed camera one womans attempt to tuck in her partners shirt tag, met with a shrug and rebuff, morphs into a shoulder rub. But the anticipation seems to cut through any self-consciousness, landing back on the two people their unit, about to …

Guy Sends A Cover Letter To His Tinder Match Whos A Business Teacher, Completely Nails It

Finding a romantic partner requires some serious hard work and takes a sizeable time investment. So plenty of people have turned to online dating apps like Tinder to make the process a little bit easier. And I’m sure that most of us know at least one friend who found true love on the app. Because Tinder has become so popular, it’s getting harder and harder to get somebody’s attention. After all, how original can you be if every idea you can come up with has been done a hundred times before? But some people go the extra mile in their attempts to woo strangers. Take this one guy for example who decided to send out a dating ‘cover letter’ to …

Lena Dunham on Love Island: I’m asking the same question they do can you love after hurt?

When the writer and director arrived in Wales to shoot a new drama, she was nursing a broken heart and romantic ideas of British life. Then she discovered the reality soap opera… As I planned my summer in Wales, my head filled with visions of romance, I supposed Id do what the heroines of novels did when they crossed the pond for a new life: go to the shore to take the healing air. Meet a man and move into his stunning manor, possibly watched over by a sinister housemaid. Scurry through cobblestoned streets and into dusty bookshops, furtively pulling up the hood of my cloak. Go to a banquet and dance to piano music in a great hall. Taste …

Why childhood sweethearts no longer measure up and six other ways dating has changed

A new study has found that online dating is now the dominant way heterosexual people find romantic partners. What else can we learn? For future generations, the question: How did you and Grandad meet?, will be answered with: Tinder, obviously. Within eight years, the internet has become the dominant way heterosexual couples meet. The latest Derek Thompson (@DKThomp) “How Couples Meet” chart, updated July 2019pic.twitter.com/Gjvh2ZqTqs 34% in 1990 to 20% in the most recent data; other routes to relationships, such as meeting through work, family and neighbours, have also declined. At first glance of the graph, it looks as if the number of couples meeting at a bar or restaurant has gone up, but thats only because they met online …

How we met: He had a reputation for playing the field. He sounded really dodgy

Amanda Woodard, 56, is a journalist and Clive Hopkins, 60, is a screenwriter and teacher. They have been together for 23 years and live in Sydney Amanda and Clive had been hearing about each other for about 10 years before they met. We had mutual friends and I would always hear about Clive doing this or that, Clive on the picket line or Clive cheating on some girl, she says, and Clive laughs. Clive had a reputation for not sticking with girlfriends very long and just playing the field, so I wasnt keen to meet him at all. He sounded really dodgy. I would hear wonderful things about you, he says. That youd had lives in London and Barcelona, that …

Im 34 and still a virgin. Whats wrong with me?

More reality, less fantasy, will help you understand who you are and what you really want, says Annalisa Barbieri I am a 34-year-old virgin. This wouldnt be such a big issue were it not for the inevitability of heartbreak. Every now and then, I fall in love with someone often at work and I become infatuated before I know them properly. There is always a big conversation in which I admit to my feelings and she says she doesnt feel that way at all. Then Im heartbroken for about four months. These feelings are purely romantic and I never fantasise about having sex with any of the women. I think I might be asexual but I cant be sure, given …

Falling in love is the worlds best natural high | Hannah Jane Parkinson

Romantic love is a hormonal rush that screws you up. It is basically awful and yet also the best experience there is If you search online for falling in love, the first result returned is: What are the symptoms of falling in love? Symptoms. Because what is falling in love if not our brains and bodies riddled with all-encompassing, uncontrollable sensations? Can love be diagnosed? Yes, pretty much, according to Freud. And there is a genuine condition known as broken-heart syndrome, if things head west. Falling in love and being in love are different things. Its falling in love that really screws you up. It is falling in love that leads one to play songs on repeat platitudinous, cloying numbers, …

My ex was charming but critical. Now Ive lost all my confidence | Dear Mariella

Work out why you were so susceptible to him and pursue only what appeals to you, says Mariella Frostrup The dilemma Im a woman in my early 30s and six months ago I was dumped. Our relationship was long distance, developed quickly and was the most intense of my life. He is 10 years my senior and is a unique, charismatic, charming man who makes a good impression on everyone. In private, however, he could be unkind, judgmental and emotionally distant. He could also be demanding, controlling and critical. During our relationship he pushed me to enter his world of ideas, books, films and art. If I didnt show enough interest, he would become disappointed and irritable. He would often …

The trouble with the tapback: No one agrees what they actually mean

They are instruments of chaos.Image: Vicky Leta / Mashable In September 2016, Apple released iOS 10. With it came the iMessage Tapback, the convenient and highly ambiguous reaction feature that — nearly three years later — no one quite knows how to use. Tapbacks were created, one assumes, to make texting more convenient. It’s true that they’re nearly effortless to employ: Simply press on a message until you’re presented with the Tapback options — a heart, a thumbs up, a thumbs down, a HAHA, a double exclamation point, and a question mark — and pick the one you want. Easy, right? You didn’t even have to type anything! Here’s the trouble, though. There’s no practical consensus on what, exactly, Tapbacks are supposed …

Wish you werent here? How to survive your first holiday as a couple

A first break can put a new romance under strain, or worse. To improve the chances of returning with the relationship intact, try following these ground rules I have lost luggage, I have slept on airport floors and in budget backpacker hostels, I have weathered flight cancellations, food poisoning and days of unbroken rain. Yet my worst-ever holiday, a weekend away with my boyfriend, went entirely to plan. We had been seeing each other for a few months, and this was our first trip together. But removed from our usual contexts (in bed, or watching TV, or watching TV in bed), we realised too late that we had nothing to say to each other. At one point we parked our …

We are not gay, but we secretly kiss and sleep in the same bed | Dear Mariella

You dont need to define your sexuality, Mariella Frostrup tells a confused man, but you do need to stop second-guessing your lovers motives and start working out what you want The dilemma I am a 30-year-old man and I had, until last year, identified as a straight man. One night, after an office dinner party, I went to my colleagues flat. We were good mates then, but nothing more. We are both architects and I went to see some of his latest work. He offered me a drink and we ended up getting drunk. He is slightly older and also identifies as heterosexual. (He is really good looking but, mysteriously, has been single for many years.) We drank too much …