Hair raising! The return of the perm

The trend responsible for some of the 80s most memorable barnets is back. But fear not the modern look is less Deirdre Barlow, more a tumble of soft waves It is a truth universally acknowledged that everybody wants the opposite of the hair they have. Those with bountiful curls are wont to straighten them to a crisp, while the rest of us crimp and twist, chasing waves via diffusers, tongs, curl creams and, lately, perms. Thats right, the trend responsible for some of the 80s most memorable dos is making a return to the terror of many who are still scarred by their own perm-disasters. But fear not: the perm, which for many still conjures images of Neighbours-era Kylie Minogue, …

Wish you werent here? How to survive your first holiday as a couple

A first break can put a new romance under strain, or worse. To improve the chances of returning with the relationship intact, try following these ground rules I have lost luggage, I have slept on airport floors and in budget backpacker hostels, I have weathered flight cancellations, food poisoning and days of unbroken rain. Yet my worst-ever holiday, a weekend away with my boyfriend, went entirely to plan. We had been seeing each other for a few months, and this was our first trip together. But removed from our usual contexts (in bed, or watching TV, or watching TV in bed), we realised too late that we had nothing to say to each other. At one point we parked our …

We are not gay, but we secretly kiss and sleep in the same bed | Dear Mariella

You dont need to define your sexuality, Mariella Frostrup tells a confused man, but you do need to stop second-guessing your lovers motives and start working out what you want The dilemma I am a 30-year-old man and I had, until last year, identified as a straight man. One night, after an office dinner party, I went to my colleagues flat. We were good mates then, but nothing more. We are both architects and I went to see some of his latest work. He offered me a drink and we ended up getting drunk. He is slightly older and also identifies as heterosexual. (He is really good looking but, mysteriously, has been single for many years.) We drank too much …